mini - vacations that doesnt cost a penny

Irritating colleagues, deadlines, meetings, papers to edit – these are just some of the common scenes in the office, stressful indeed! We all deserve a break, but, this doesn’t mean that we need to spend some amount. Encourage your colleagues to take several mini – vacations each day every time stress is building.

Mini – vacations that doesn’t cost your money:

1. Deep Breathing – take time out to breathe. Follow the following solution – put your hands on your stomach and feel it rise as you draw air all the way down to the base of your spine. Let the air out slowly. Take another long, deep, cleaning breath and let it out. Do this several times, flooding your system with oxygen. A sense of relief and well – being washes over you. After a minute or two, you’re relaxed and rested and ready to return to the task with renewed energy and enthusiasm.

2. Day tripping – think of a place where you were contended and relaxed. Perhaps it is a favorite vacation spot. See yourself as you were there, so perfect – that is the sense of your contentment. You can also just simply close your eyes and imagine your favorite scene as clearly as you can. Just experience it.

3. Day dream – this is a natural, healthy, and relaxing. Build a little legalized daydreaming into the daily routine. Spend a few minutes letting your mind wander.

4. Body tucks and jives – lots of folks feel their stress in the gut, suffering from stomach pains and cramps by the end of a long, stressful day. Others come home from work with a stress headache or a stiff, sore neck that keeps miserable all night. Before you develop a literal pain in the neck or head or wherever – take a body break. Massage the joint where your upper and lower jaws meet. Let your shoulders relax, gently rotating them as you feel the pain and tension drop away.

Who actually causes stress?

Bosses – a person who always wants to tell others what to do – they are the major cause of stress on the job and of why people lose their motivation to perform. Don’t be a boss – be a coach and helper =)

(source: 10 minute guide to motivation people)

grieve or not to grieve?

I am still in the period of grieving. I still miss my father especially every time I see his favorite stuff, seeing things that he usually does. Everything that reminds me of him makes me feel blue and lonely. At times, I am trying to control my emotions, hide what truly I feel and be in one cornet pretending that I am okay.

In some cultures, crying in public or expressing your feelings openly is not very much practiced especially in men. This is particularly in Europe and Britain. They are trained to hide their feelings and repress their emotions. While in some parts of the world, whether happy or sad, people express their feelings and letting others know how they feel. But when you suffer the lose of dear one, is it really wrong to show how you feel?

Grief is a normal reaction. Counselors recommends that we should express our grief and not to hide it. Weeping is part of human nature, therefore a normal reaction to the death of a loved one. Yet mourning is expressed in other ways on how it is practiced in your culture and religious belief.

Grieving for some could be longer, for others will take just some time, which is because grieving process works differently with everyone. Some would even say that we grieved long enough or didn’t even grieve at all. Let them say whatever they want, think whatever they desire. My source for this article quotes “forgive them and forget about it. If you try to force yourself into a mold created by others, you stunt your growth toward restored emotional health.”

Now I could say that what I am feeling is normal reaction to the loss of my father. I will not try to let other peoples thinking affect me because a human with normal feelings, does grieve and does mourn the loss of any loved one. I am human and I am sad –Will not let other people dictate on how I should feel or act. What helps me forget my sadness even for a little while is the hope that I will be seeing my father in paradise here on earth =)

Simple ways to PEACE AND HAPPINESS

Let me share what I have read from a book that helps me to understand life and to stop worrying and start living. I am skipping some parts and trying to go through the interesting parts =) I am sharing the latest and will share more, so keep coming!

1. Let’s fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope, for “our life is what our thoughts make it.”

2. Let’s never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. “Let’s never waste a minute thinking about people we don’t like.”

3. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let’s expect it. Let’s remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude- but to give for the joy of giving.

4. Count your blessings-not your troubles!

5. Let’s not imitate others. Let’s find ourselves and be ourselves, for “envy is ignorance” and imitation is suicide.”

6. When fate hands a lemon, let’s try to make a lemonade.

7. Let’s forget our own unhappiness – by trying to create a little happiness for others. “When you are good to others, you are best to yourself.”

How to keep from Worrying about Insomnia

The recent death of my father, lead me to sleeping problem or insomnia. This dilemma has been my worry for a longer time now, I haven’t totally recovered yet. My friend lends me this book that discusses and giving some tips and advices on major problems that worrying almost all people and I have read so far rules on How to keep from Worrying about insomnia, let me share what I have read:

1. Are you the type who toss and roll on bed? Trying all the best to get a sleep? I am that kind. If we can’t sleep, the best thing to do instead of rolling, tossing on bed is to Get up and start doing other things such as Reading until we do feel sleepy.

2. No one was ever killed by lack of sleep, the thing is if we keep on thinking about insomnia that would lead as to other illness. So stop worrying because it could lead to more damage than sleeplessness.

3. Pray – the best medicine. According to what I have read - Prayer is regarded as the most adequate and normal of all the pacifiers of the mind and calmer of the nerves.

4. Relax - at home or even at work places. Start to Learn to Relax.

5. Exercise. One of the best cures for insomnia is making you physically busy, this is by gardening, swimming or simply by just plain physically exhausting work.

Do you worry when you can’t sleep well? Yes! Because I do…so let us start following the rules above and get a very goodnight sleep.

Success – How can you achieve it?

There are people at very young age are already successful in their chosen field and career. To others success is elusive when, after doing everything to become financially stable, they are still feeling unhappy. When, after gaining the riches every human would want, their life began to loosen.

True Success is attainable, if we are to follow and live a life in harmony with the Bible’s teaching. We may be imperfect and sinful, yet, our very life can be a resounding success. Here are Bible teachings that can help each of us to reach the real success.

Money –its proper place

Yes, money is the reason for all to be injurious, will do anything bad or good for the sake of money. We are therefore admonished to care ourselves and our loved ones for the real issue, the love of money. It is self – defeating and really leads to disappointment, frustration and the worst – crime.

Be Generous

Learn to be kind and give happily, and expect nothing in return. People who often give without viewing a repayment are loved and are very much appreciated. Especially if we have all the means to offer and share what we have, studies shows that those who often help are experiencing improved sense of well – being, long life and it reduces depression.

Be Forgiving

How is this supposed to be shown? Examine yourself and check whether you have caused an upset to other people. Are you freely forgiving those who ask for your forgiveness? Self- examination is where it is all should start. Forgiving comes along with self-control. It is a strength that is to be shown especially in a situation where you seem to lose yourself.

Love Unselfishly

Show a loving attitude unselfishly. Parents are to show warm affection to their children and cultivate a moral based on the Bible. Children raised in a loving family, are enjoying security and stability. Couple is also advised to view marriage as sacred and if problem arises, resolve in the spirit of love.

Spiritually Conscious

Comply with Gods standards and certainly it will shield us from bad and harmful practices. It is good for us – physically, mentally, and emotionally, and most of all Inner Peace.

Awake
November 2008 Issue

on picture are my nephews - g i a n, f l o y d & j h a z p e r

Mind your Health

A healthy body and mind is important for a happy and complete life, a person will even trade even his wealth just to live longer and for a better health.

My today’s post came in mind when I was watching a television advertisement few hours ago, even followed the title – Mind Your Health – a milk product and I totally agree, milk is good enough to maintain a healthier body. However I am not going to name the milk nor promote it :-) ... milk product varies depending on our age; some are even made to cater for the entire family. This I think is more practical, for those members whose ages are from 10 – 49 years old. Mothers are always advised to breastfeed up to 2 years if possible, otherwise there is milk meant for babies until they reach a certain age. Older ones from 50 years old – to avoid osteoporosis problem, is to take recommended milk good enough for their age.

I myself was deprived of milk when I was younger. Not deprived but rather my parents can’t afford to buy milk for us. Our parents would rather spend the money for our rice and food. Buy the more important things for the house instead of spending it for our milk. I found out through my orthopedic that I have my 10 degree scoliosis and was diagnosed five years ago. I have no reason to panic though, because my case is the type that will never improve, yet I am being careful and since I can afford to buy myself milk, I never forget to take at least a glass or 2 a day.

Include milk in your list of important needs for yourself, buy calcium rich foods. Never underestimate the nutrients and advantages it will give to your health. Make it a point to take at least 2 glasses of milk everyday especially while you are still young. As we get older, our bones are getting weaker, so, while still young establish and build stronger bones.

So mind your health – live with healthy lifestyle, healthy diet along with 2 glasses of milk, and you sure will live longer, look and feel younger.

How to be a Healthy Mommy

Mothers who are often left at home to take care of the kids find less time to entertain their personal needs. Most of their time is being spend feeding the kids, helping them with their school works and doing household chores. They never get bored and complain doing their motherly role. With this lifestyle, other moms though look older than their age; this is because being left alone to care for the needs of the kids is not an easy task. And there are other moms also who despite the demanding role are maintaining their beauty and are looking young. Here are simple tips from one mother with 2 beautiful girls:

Be their friends - being with naughty kids, you will tend to shout and be harsh because of their behaviors. But learn how to deal with them in a good way. Try to be their friend and discipline them in a way that will never do such action again.

Laugh with them – play with your kids, laugh and enjoy spending times with them. Bring your kids in a place where you can bond together, some school activities requires the present of parents so make it a point to join your kids and participate in school bustles.

If you think spending time alone is what you need, read a book or listen to music in a place away from them could be helpful. And if you want to spend time with your friends, invite them in your house and prepare a meal where your friends and kids will enjoy.

Mothers, never let your children be the hindrance and the reason for you to stop caring yourself. Instead learn new things with them, laugh with them, be your kid’s playmate and take it a pleasure and an opportunity being their mother.

on picture - Gadiel Gabriel's family(wife & 2 lovely girls)