Tips on How to Get Over a Break-Up

After a failure relationship, moving on is the next thing to do. And it is not as easy as other would say, especially if you are the one dumped or you did not initiate the break up. Hence, we have no choice but to accept the fact and keep going. However, there are some tips on how to reduce the pain, and here are some:

Cry and keep crying - Scream if you want, don’t control yourself, until you will realize and decide that weeping need to be over. Then you will feel quite better and getting better each day. You will then start to recover, keep going and learn something from what you experienced.

Completely cut off the contact – this is especially if you are still in love with your ex, while the other doesn’t share the same feeling. Removing information is best to do, if it could likely be the reason for you to remember or contact him/her. Avoid visiting places where you could remember the shared memories, and if ever you are in the same work place, try to be professional as possible. Avoid talking or discussing your relationship, this often hurts and makes it harder for you to keep going. Cutting off the communication completely is not easy but is attainable. Never ever “be friend” your ex, some says that being friends is possible. Maybe, but it is hard especially if the pain is still intense. The “we can be just friends” is wise if you both have moved on and over with your feelings.

Be with friends – they are the ones you can lean on during this weakest point of your life. Doing things that will keep you active is a great tool in getting over a break up. Pamper yourself, have a massage, buy new clothes and try enrolling in some interesting crafts. Meet new people, but don’t get involved to another relationship, especially if you are not yet over your past affiliation. Don’t flounder yourself with alcoholic drinks, yes you might forget the pain but only for a while, and will sometimes worsen your feeling. Sometimes feeling hopeless that you will never pass the experience could lead you to indulge into alcohol, but be optimistic that you will sure get over the pain.

Note down your thoughts - the hurt, anger, frustrations - everything that you are feeling. This is helpful and therapeutic, and an outlet for some, be sure to scratch or burn the note you have written though. With regards to the “gifts” your ex have given you, the letters or other things, put them away from your sight. But never chuck or burn them, often after getting over your feelings, you may wish to check them again.

Getting over a break up does takes time, be more patient and make this a moment to reflect about you, but then avoid blaming yourself. There is a reason beyond what happened, but never ever think that the reason was you. Finding such reason is not easy, but to keep going you need to discern conclusion on your own.

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How to Motivate Yourself

There are decisions we do in life that sometimes end up to nothing. We focus on a certain plan; we sometimes feel we did everything we could but at the end all our desire seems worthless. This is sometimes due to some difficulties and challenges that we encounter along the way. We have plans and because we don’t have motivation, we end up nothing. This will lead to unhealthy feeling and even depression.

Here are some tips on how to motivate ourselves:

Make a plan, be organized, be positive and focus on the output. Avoid thinking negative feelings and don’t let such thoughts control your mind, this could be the main reason you will lose your self confidence. So focus on the bright side and remain positive and get over the vague feelings.

Be around with optimistic people. They will encourage and help build up your and improve your motivation. Be confident and influenced by them. Claim that you can do things rightly being around with these people.

Don’t easily give up. If you fall then start over again. There is always a room for improvement. Just remember to always be excited on your plans and thrilled on a highest level.

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What to consider in Finding a Job

Finding a job is what occupies lives of many people nowadays. Where to find and how to find are the two questions to consider in searching for a job. Here are some tips on what to consider in finding job:

In newspapers, there is a section meant for those searching for work. Often small and local companies place their ads in local papers, while international companies are likely to post vacancies through national papers. However, online search for jobs is so common these days, arranged by categories and in every country. This is not bad at all, what is bad is to wait too long for response or invitation for interviews. And even wait in vain, I personally experienced this; and I was really frustrated. Since names are stored in a database, so you will likely wait until the employers search your record. Be careful, and it is better to subscribe and receive or get the latest job vacancies through your email.

It is of course best to apply in a job where you understand and know your responsibilities. You will be likely more confident, to apply in a work that matches your experience and educational attainment. The first thing to put in mind in finding a career - you like what you will be doing. Even you will be earning lower wage, it isn’t a big thing as long as you are enjoying in what you are doing. Less stress and you are happily looking ahead to work each day. BE HEALTHY!

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Just another ordinary day … what is Aero-kae-bo?

Another day is about to end, not truly a good day but not too bad either. A little misunderstanding or a little exchange of sought after words occurred. Well, maybe because the other person is trying to get into the situation. Or perhaps, she might as well precise but the person receiving the line of words does not welcome such proposal. A normal day that happens in a family, and both are ready to let go and forget the situation that took place and of course the words that was spoken totally beyond.

Went to the mall in the afternoon to buy some personal stuff and allotted only few hours. No traffic jam, no hassle along the way. Home, now writing a little post for her blog and then in a little while, will do a promised burning of compact disc. Pledged she did to herself. Will actually copy a borrowed cd from a friend, aero-kae-bo. LOL

What is Aer.Kae.Bo. Aero – stands for aerobics, kae - for karate and bo – for boxing. This morning was actually my 3rd day of doing aero.kae.bo, and wow undeniably relaxing..(naks!), especially the ten minutes combination. Good for starter like me, easy to follow that even the kids joined me. I just hope that I would be able to do it regularly ;) Yap, we need to try or do any work out to keep our body fit, to stay young, to look young and BE HEALTHY! along with proper diet of course… (are these lines familiar? huh!) but if you are already doing it, carry on! ;)

What if the Head of the Family is away?

Most of the time, Mothers are left to take full responsibilities of the children, to play both the role of the father and the look after. Often, the head or the father is in the part of the world, with the purpose of earning more and to support the needs of his family. This is mostly the case in Asian countries. And this is the case with my couple friends, Janice Fulgueras full time mom and Michael Fulgueras, loyal husband and father, who is working in Brunei Darussalam. Quite stressful for Janice or moms because they are the one left home with kids. So, here are little help and tips on how to lessen the pressure of being alone bringing up the children ;)

Make a schedule, for your motherly life to be less stressful. For everything that should be done, make a list. Mothers are often leaving no time to rest. But you can lessen your work, such as preparing meals ahead, then you can just reheat the prepared meal, this will give you time to relax or spend longer time with the kids. Play with your kids. This is as well the best time to interact with your children, to recognize the negative sides and help them to overcome such pessimistic aspect. Doing home chores is not an easy task, so mothers, as early as possible train your children to help you with the house hold chores. Training could be fun and educational at the same. Make some strategies for it not to be boring.

If you want time to relax with your fellow mothers or girlfriends, set a day to have coffee with them or perhaps invite them to come over and catch up, this can even bring closer bond between your kids and your friends. As mothers, you need to make time for yourself; you deserve to be revived, doing stuff that will make you feel pleased. Mothers, unwind and be happy, for you to be a better person and a great Mommy to your children.BE HEALTHY!!

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How to deal with your Complicated Boss

One of my dearest friends, Gadiel Gabriel who is based in Dubai, shared with me how bad he felt when his boss uttered unkindly words for him. He was so annoyed and sad of what happened, and didn’t really expect such behavior from his superior. How are we supposed to handle and how are we going to work with complicated boss? Take some of these advices:

Since you are in a place of work, don’t take it too personal. As long as you know what your duties and responsibilities are, don’t easily get frustrated. There might be some reasons beyond your work that makes your boss annoyed. Yet there are supervisors or big bosses that didn’t undergo management training, if this is your case, then talk to them, clarify and know their expectations from you and ask them how you and they can work together as a team.

There are kind of boss whose habit is to shout and humiliate their employees. If these are your kind of superior, explain how such practice has big blow with your performance. If you have a part on the conflict, admit and suggest some resolutions for you to be productive on every assignment.

Try also to recognize and deal with your own negative reactions. But this doesn’t mean you blame yourself, instead evaluate your job performance and if needed try to improve your manners.

Never ever think you are the only person to deal with this kind of boss, irritating, arrogant, or whatever negative that best describe them. Find your shock absorber or a mentor that will guide and advice you all the way. But if you think enduring your boss’s attitude will spoil your career, then take this advice - Quit!

Laughter – is it really the Best Medicine?

Don’t we feel relax and calm every time we bout a laugh? Study shows that everyday laugh may protect us against heart diseases. It reduces the pain and boosts our job performance. So then, true indeed that laughter is the best medicine.

Laughter is the key to having a positive and closer relationship to other people. At work, it increases our performance; our creativity and eagerness to solve compound problems and helps to having a good association with our colleagues. Yet, people often laugh because they have reasons to; healthy people especially have more reasons to laugh. Some has the personality to handle better on some issues in life.

Exercise regularly, healthy diet and avoid doing unhealthy acts and activities. Include laughter in our daily activities. What if we have no reason to laugh? Then why not, watch funny movies and magazines and books with humorous topics and partake in humorous conversations. Sitting and laughing while watching, reading or listening isn’t costly. There is no reason to deprive ourselves to enjoy and relax.

We don’t need to see a doctor and ask for a prescription to laugh. It is all free, so live each day with humor and laugh a few minutes. Laugh, for it is if not the best, maybe a good medicine! BE HEALTHY!

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