I am still in the period of grieving. I still miss my father especially every time I see his favorite stuff, seeing things that he usually does. Everything that reminds me of him makes me feel blue and lonely. At times, I am trying to control my emotions, hide what truly I feel and be in one cornet pretending that I am okay.
In some cultures, crying in public or expressing your feelings openly is not very much practiced especially in men. This is particularly in Europe and Britain. They are trained to hide their feelings and repress their emotions. While in some parts of the world, whether happy or sad, people express their feelings and letting others know how they feel. But when you suffer the lose of dear one, is it really wrong to show how you feel?
Grief is a normal reaction. Counselors recommends that we should express our grief and not to hide it. Weeping is part of human nature, therefore a normal reaction to the death of a loved one. Yet mourning is expressed in other ways on how it is practiced in your culture and religious belief.
Grieving for some could be longer, for others will take just some time, which is because grieving process works differently with everyone. Some would even say that we grieved long enough or didn’t even grieve at all. Let them say whatever they want, think whatever they desire. My source for this article quotes “forgive them and forget about it. If you try to force yourself into a mold created by others, you stunt your growth toward restored emotional health.”
Now I could say that what I am feeling is normal reaction to the loss of my father. I will not try to let other peoples thinking affect me because a human with normal feelings, does grieve and does mourn the loss of any loved one. I am human and I am sad –Will not let other people dictate on how I should feel or act. What helps me forget my sadness even for a little while is the hope that I will be seeing my father in paradise here on earth =)
In some cultures, crying in public or expressing your feelings openly is not very much practiced especially in men. This is particularly in Europe and Britain. They are trained to hide their feelings and repress their emotions. While in some parts of the world, whether happy or sad, people express their feelings and letting others know how they feel. But when you suffer the lose of dear one, is it really wrong to show how you feel?
Grief is a normal reaction. Counselors recommends that we should express our grief and not to hide it. Weeping is part of human nature, therefore a normal reaction to the death of a loved one. Yet mourning is expressed in other ways on how it is practiced in your culture and religious belief.
Grieving for some could be longer, for others will take just some time, which is because grieving process works differently with everyone. Some would even say that we grieved long enough or didn’t even grieve at all. Let them say whatever they want, think whatever they desire. My source for this article quotes “forgive them and forget about it. If you try to force yourself into a mold created by others, you stunt your growth toward restored emotional health.”
Now I could say that what I am feeling is normal reaction to the loss of my father. I will not try to let other peoples thinking affect me because a human with normal feelings, does grieve and does mourn the loss of any loved one. I am human and I am sad –Will not let other people dictate on how I should feel or act. What helps me forget my sadness even for a little while is the hope that I will be seeing my father in paradise here on earth =)
